As I sit down and write this week's post so many memories, thoughts and emotions run through my whole being. Specially this particular day when is Father's day and my own father's B-day was too.
I see how life being so misterious, mystical, surprising, uncontrollable and contrasting brings new ways and opportunities to learn about yourself and the people around you. While being little, hardly I understood why my father was not with me and why he did not live with me? I remember my mom saying he was always working and making up stories of his absence but somehow I always felt his presence even though not physically. So many times, I cried out and asked my mom for my dad but she just did not know how to respond back and with time I got to learn more about the truth and the reasons of him not being there.
Even though, back then, those reasons were not just good enough for me simply because of my child's needs. A big part of me understood why he was not there?. Now as time has passed by and I get to experience the fortune and blessing to be a father I see the limitations and challenges he might have faced as a father. Specially when life circumstances puts you into situations that are not dependent only on your own actions and decisions.
How interesting life is that through out your own life it puts you into sometimes similar situations when you get to be raised and when you get to raise your own children. I have read and listen to people saying how different they would like to raise their children from what they were raised by their parents and other's that express the other side of the coin. The truth is that every each one of us has a unique, particular, valid and valuable way of living life and deciding how we want to raise our children. There is NO recipe or one way to do it, the challenge is to teach our own children about this and make them feel unique, special and put the attention to them when you have the opportunity.
As I celebrate my second year of being a father with my particular situation and coincidentally not having Alex today broadens my conscious and prepares me for the future and when I get to celebrate with him. I get to cheerish, value, love and admire what my father did when he had his opportunities with me. As the circle of life is, when you get to be older and with your own children you get to be more aware, value and conscious of what your parents did while raising you.
I take this final opportunity to applaud, value and admire all my male friends that are both fathers and non fathers. Each one of them are a product and represent in essence the great value of their own Fathers.
Happy Father's Day!
Till the next post! Keep on smiling and enjoying life
Cheers,
Vic
